Monday, August 25, 2008
TRUST is a very important factor for all relationships. When trust is broken, it is the end of the relationship. Lack of trust leads to suspicion, suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and enmity may result in separation.
A telephone operator told me that one day she received a phone call. She answered, 'Public Utilities Board.' There was silence. She repeated, 'PUB.' There was still no answer. When she was going to cut off the line, she Heard a lady's voice, 'Oh, so this is PUB. Sorry, I got the number from my Husband's pocket but I do not know whose number it is.
'Without mutual trust, just imagine what will happen to the couple if the telephone operator answered with just 'hello' instead of 'PUB'.
A man asked his father-in-law, 'Many people praised you for a successful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?'The father-in-law answered in a smile, 'Never criticize your wife for her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband than you.'
We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves.
If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too.Forgive us our sins, as we forgive those who sinned against us...
Y9:06 AM
Different people have different perception. One man's meat could be another man's poison. A couple bought a donkey from the market. On the way home, a boy commented, 'Very stupid. Why neither of them ride on the donkey? 'Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on the donkey. He walked besides them. Later, an old man saw it and commented, 'The husband is the head of family. How can the wife ride on the donkey while the husband is on foot?' Hearing this, the wife quickly got down and let the husband ride on the donkey.
Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented, 'How can the man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk. He is no gentleman.'The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey. Then, they met a young man. He commented, 'Poor donkey, how can you hold up the weight of two persons. They are cruel to you.' Hearing that, the husband and wife immediately climbed down from the donkey and carried it on their shoulders.
It seems to be the only choice left. Later, on a nar row bridge, the donkey was frightened and struggled. They lost their balance and fell into the river.
You can never have everyone praise you, nor will everyone condemn you. Never in the past, not at present, and never will be in the future.Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is clear..
Y9:00 AM
Thursday, August 21, 2008
Please look at the top left corner of the pic, the BIG X....
This is the close-up....
What is so interesting about this?? Every set of this documents were stapled two times like the "X" you had seen in the pic... All given by a "swee ah niang" from a nearby company...
Labels: Humour, photo
Y3:37 PM
Wednesday, August 20, 2008
This seems to be a clearer chart...
http://pregnancy.about.com/od/boyorgirl/l/blchinesegenderchart.htmAncient Chinese Gender Chart
Girl or boy?
Legend has it that this chart was found in an ancient tomb in China and is supposedly based on the Chinese lunar calendar. By using the mother's age at conception and the month of conception, supposedly you can determine with 100% accuracy if your baby is a boy or a girl.
Labels: pregnancy
Y9:44 AM
Monday, August 11, 2008
My new watch. Given by Winfield. Original price at 159. Got it on last day of GSS at twenty percent discount. Labels: photo, Winfield
Y2:01 PM
Monday, August 4, 2008
1. Get married after about two years of courtship
Couples who rush to the altar, as well as couples who drag their feet to the altar, have an increased risk for divorce. "The couples who are slowest to marry tend to be the quickest to split," according to Ted Huston, Ph.D.
Researchers say that if a couple's courtship is average in length -- around two years, four months -- there is less chance of divorce.2. Rethink living together
Living together before marriage is more popular than ever and it stands to reason that you might want to take someone for a "test drive" around your living space before you commit to marriage. However, research doesn't support this. Couples who live together before marriage have a higher risk of divorce.
3. Wait until you are a little older to marry
Statistics show that if you marry after age 25, your marriage will have a much better chance.
4. Talk about the big issues before you get married
How many kids do you both want? How will you handle your finances? It's important to clarify these questions before the honeymoon. Premarital education or counseling can help with this. Studies show that those who go through this process have higher levels of marital satisfaction and more commitment to their spouses.
5. You can argue, just don't let it turn into World War III
Arguing is a natural part of a relationship and in and of itself does not predict divorce. However, the way you argue does. Researchers Gottman and Levenson say they can predict divorce by watching how negative a couple gets with each other, as well as how many constructive, positive interactions they have during an argument. Things to avoid when arguing: criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling. Learn to tone down heated arguments with humor and a few kind words.
6. Do stuff together
Yes, you both need to have your own individual interests. However, if you take this too far you may start to lead separate lives and grow apart, like if he spends every Saturday golfing and she spends every Saturday swimming. Learn to reconnect by taking part in a hobby or activity that you both enjoy. Also important: Take time for intimacy even when it seems like you don't have a minute to spare. Forms of intimacy like massage and cuddling are wonderful ways to bring you closer together.
7. Share the chores
If one person does the majority of the housework while the other slacks off, that's a recipe for divorce.
8. Be as polite to each other as you are to strangers
Sometimes we treat the people we love most with the least amount of respect without even realizing it. Ask yourself, "Do I treat friends, acquaintances, coworkers, and even strangers nicer than I do my significant other?"
9. Have issues? Get help!
Is one of you suffering from depression? Does one of you have substance abuse issues? Has one of you cheated? If you don't address these types of issues individually as well as a couple, you dramatically increase your divorce risk. Take steps to decrease your divorce risk now by addressing these issues through counseling and other means!
10. Marry someone who wants to be married
It seems obvious, but it's really not, since so many people ignore it. If you have to beg, cajole, manipulate, and hurl ultimatums at someone before they will agree to marry you, common sense says they probably don't want to be married. If you think something is going to change when you get that ring on their finger, you're wrong. Don't set yourself up for failure. Find somebody who wants the same things you want!
Take time to give each other compliments and remember to say "please" and "thank you" rather than barking orders or nagging. Take time to give each other compliments and remember to say "please" and "thank you" rather than barking orders or nagging.
Labels: Marriage
Y9:26 PM
Saturday, August 2, 2008
http://www.babyzone.com/pregnancy/genderpredictor/Found this website by accident... Pretty cool to find ang mohs to use chinese calendar to predict baby's gender...
The accuracy of the chart has been proved by thousands of People and is believed to be 99 percent accurate. Believe it or not.
WOMAN'S CONCEIVING AGE
AGE 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26 27 28 29 30 31
MONTH1819202122232425262728293031
1G BGBGBBGBGBGBB
2BGBGBBGBGBGBGG
3GBGGBGBBBGBGGB
4BGBGGBBGGBGGGG
5BGBGBBGGGGGBGG
6BBBGGGBBBGGBGG
7BBBGGBBGGBBBGG
8BBBGBGGBBBBBGG
9BBBGGBGBGBBBGG
10BBGGGBGBGBBGGG
11BGBGGBGBGGGGBG
12BGBGGGGBGBGGBB
AGE 32 33 34 35 36 37 38 39 40 41 42 43 44 45
MONTH3233343536373839404142434445
1BGBBGBGBGBGBBG
2GBGBBGBGBGBGBB
3BBBGBBGBGBGBGB
4GBGBGBBBBGBGBG
5GGGGBGBBGBGBBG
6GGGGGBGGBGBGBG
7GGGGGGBGBBGBGB
8GBGBGBGBGBBGBG
9GGGGBGBGBGBBGB
10GGGGBBGBGBGBBG
11GGBBBGBGBGBBGB
12BBBBBBGGGBGBGB
EXPLANATION>>You can choose for yourself whether you want a boy or a girl by following the chart. The woman's age from 18 to 45 (Chinese reckoning) is on the top line while the months Jan to Dec indicate the month when the baby is conceived. By following the chart you will be able to tell in advance whether your baby will be a boy or a girl. Thus, you can plan to have a boy or a girl. This chart has been taken from a Royal tomb near Peking, China. The original copy is kept in the institute of Science of Peking. The accuracy of the chart has been proved by thousands of People and is believed to be 99 percent accurate. By reckoning, you follow a line drawn from the figure representing the woman's age to a line drawn from the month the baby is conceived. For instance, if the woman is 27 years old and her baby is conceived in Month 1 (according to the Chinese Lunar Calendar), then her baby will be a girl. The chart is based on the month the baby is conceived and not on the birth of the baby, B-Male, G-Female.
Labels: pregnancy
Y10:50 PM
This is the close-up....
